Seeds of Kindness

I typically think of kindness as the quality of my interactions with others. I find motivation to be kind to others, but I can neglect myself along the way. How can I be a vessel of kindness if I am empty? I must also receive kindness. Instead of depending on others to care for me, I must take initiative to care for myself. 

If I want kindness to come from me, I must plant the seeds within myself. I must take the care to treat myself the way I treat my loved ones. Self-kindness can be any gesture you might offer to someone else. It can be as simple as taking a warm shower, creating a moment of quiet, or savoring a cup of tea in a favorite chair.

Self-kindness ideas:

  • Prepare and eat a nourishing meal.
  • Give yourself permission to rest. 
  • Move your body in a way that feels best to you.
  • Bring beauty to your space. It can be as simple as clearing clutter from a surface or lighting a candle.
  • Go on a walk. Take notice of things that grow, colors of your surroundings, and the appearance of the sky.
  • Accept what it is.
  • Take a break from social media, television, or ways you may receive too much information.
  • Create something with your hands. Let go of thinking about the finished product. Remember the childlike joy of creating something just for the experience.
  • Take joy in your community by being around supportive people, or call someone who loves you.
  • Plan something to look forward to, whether it is learning a new skill or making time for an activity you enjoy.

"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." — Audre Lorde

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